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"GOD has not called me to be successful. He called me to be Faithful… Never forget or neglect anyone because nobody knows what's coming tomorrow. You will know their value when you can't meet them once again in the lifetime." Mother Teresa "The more society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it…. If you loved someone, you loved him, and when you had nothing else to give, you still gave him love." George Orwell

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You Won’t Become What You Want To Be, You Become What You Fear To Be.

To the Sober

I knew I loved you before I met you,
I think I dreamed you into life.
I knew I loved you before I met you,
I have been waiting all my life.

I’ve never believed hardship or suffering was meant to be. I’ve never believed relationships were meant to be. Sometimes I think things happen for a reason. If there had once been a chance to meet somebody and there had once been love, then it will still be there in spite of time and obstacles. Destiny is usually just around the corner.

You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it. Because your destiny is real. Because your destiny has not been decided by others, but by you.  Because there are powers far beyond us. Because power is a fickle mistress. 

Have you ever met someone that made you feel like never before? Have you ever met someone who made you feel both happy and sad at the same time? This is simply a case of meeting the right person at the wrong time and it can be a painful experience. 

 If the right person comes at the right time, then everything is great. However, if they come at the wrong time in your life, it will remind you during your life. 

 You will carry it out because you choose to. There’s no need to blame fate or destiny for a stupid decision. And you won’t become what you want to be, you become what you fear to be.

Sometimes you may be the ideal person for your partner but entering a relationship with them at the wrong time is sure to cause unpleasantness. In this case you’re better off without your significant other as this relationship is doomed to fail. This goes both ways – if your partner simply isn’t able to be a loving partner you won’t get anywhere.

We all have arguments about not being able to enter a relationship at some point of our life. Some people focus on their career, while other seek more adventure in their life before settling down. Whatever the excuse, sometimes the simple truth is that at that point of your life you’re just not able to love completely. You’re not prepared to love your partner and try your hardest in the relationship and this can create big problems.

Your right person may not appear at the wrong time, but it can happen. Or they can be the right person for you, but if you are not the person you are meant to be, then the relationship will fail.

Did somebody send you to me? I didn’t even know I needed you. Life can be tough at times. We can’t go back to who we once were.

When you decide to settle down, you should only do it for someone who loves you unconditionally and who’s supportive, calm and warm. Partners shouldn’t be able to live without each other and should be an embodiment of deep love and caring. Only this can make a relationship going.

However, we sometimes meet people who we connect with on a deep level at a wrong point of our life. In this case, you’re better off exiting that relationship as you’re not ready for the compromises that need to be done and devote yourself to your partner.

The purest and deepest love is one when both partners invest in each other and when their emotions and thoughts are being shared.

If you happen to be with the right guy or girl, but you’re not ready to invest yourself in them fully, you need to let them go or you’re in for a painful ride. Yes, letting go of someone you love may be difficult, but – it’s the right move. If you’re in a difficult spot and aren’t able to deal with the hardships of a relationship, then you shouldn’t be in it. You should leave your partner to find another partner who’s able to give them all the love they deserve. 

Destiny is a fickle mistress and you may cross your paths once again. Can you hear whispering the secrets of the destiny into your year:

I was falling in love with her, and she was falling in love with me. It was fated, decided before any of us were born, and I hated it as much as I loved it. 

Until then, however, make sure to work on your issues and resolve them. Once you do, you may meet the right person at the right time and everything will work out great.

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Истина

“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”

Oscar Wilde

 

Някой ли открадна сърцето ти,
което плачеше нощем на сън.
Увехна нещо вътре в тебе,
не поглеждаш дори навън.

Ще оставиш ли това,
за което си мечтал
и с години си се борил,
път, по който си вървял?

Някой ден сърцето,
ще поиска ей това,
което ти си му отнемал,
без дори да си разбрал.
Някой ден сърцето ще те съди за това,
че много си го лъгал.

Никога не казвай: “Да”,
когато чувствата ги няма в теб,
когато ровиш в твойта самота,
пак се луташ за кой ли път.

Уморен от твоя бяг,
продължаваш все натам,
вътре някъде дълбоко в тебе
и винаги оставаш сам.

Keep Your Diamond and Celebrate the Life

middle-aged-manA couple of days ago a middle –aged man with the initials “MQ” found me on Facebook and started chatting. Some of the words I am still thinking about.

I start with the sentence the man told me: “I can easy fall in love, if I know you well”.

We turn our back on our inner wisdom and listen to what people tell us rather than using our sixth sense.  

Men don’t understand women, but at least they know it. Women don’t understand men, but they don’t know it. Does the following question sound at all familiar? 

Did you know you can read minds? 

Simulation theory states that we are natural mind readers. We place ourselves in another person’s “mental shoes”, and use our own mind as a model for theirs. 

We all have intuitive power. All of us have had feelings about people that have been correct, yet we can’t explain why we felt the way we did. 

We often know when a partner is lying to us, even if every logical sign is to the contrary. The problem arises when we choose to ignore these feelings. 

Sometimes I say “I knew something wasn’t right from the start”, a year or two after I did find what was wrong…. But I hoped for the best… If only I’d listened to my inner wisdom. 

The next sentence the man “MQ”, middle-aged man, told me was: “…with a big heart, because my Love is as big as Universe (it has a sense of humour) this means lots to me”. 

According my experience, I tried to find the opposite contest of this sentence: My concern is the whole middle range of men who don’t know what is normal and who, when their sexual habits or performance changes, become so embarrassed or ashamed that they pull away from any intimacy: 

The longer this problem remains unspoken between a couple, 
the more monstrous it grows, until there is an eight-hundred-pound 
gorilla in the bedroom. Nobody mentions it for six 
months, two years, five years; meanwhile, the pair stops 
hugging, stops holding hands, stops touching altogether, 
moves to separate beds, to separate rooms, and ultimately 
separate lives. They become estranged in all forms of intimacy 
because of this sexual shutdown. 

But is it as simple as that? The younger generation seems to have become more metro-sexual. They cook, clean and take care of their children. They use grooming products and wax their bits and are far more “feminised” than the 40-plus-something men I am meeting. 

I think the time has come for men to readjust their sights. Our culture’s masculine code dictates that “men don’t need relationships, men don’t need to be connected, men don’t need to be heartfelt”. It is not true.  

There is a thing called knowledge of the world, which people do not have until they are middle-aged. It is something which cannot be taught to younger people, because it is not logical and does not obey laws that are constant. It has no rules. 

Now I would tell you what I think about myself: It was easy, terribly easy, to become with time a middle-aged woman with a sharp tongue. I would have to guard against this. 

To lovers out there…  

It won’t matter on the age… but once you find your diamond …..Will you stop your search, keep your diamond and celebrate the life? 

Memories

Five Years Ago

“What I like about photographs is that they capture a moment that’s gone forever, impossible to reproduce.”