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"GOD has not called me to be successful. He called me to be Faithful… Never forget or neglect anyone because nobody knows what's coming tomorrow. You will know their value when you can't meet them once again in the lifetime." Mother Teresa

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Whisper

Translated by me, Bulgarian to English translation

When love disappeared,
the pain and sadness is back and all is clear.
When the day’s gone,
the night swims around me
like a black swan.
When he decides to go
“Does he do it slow?”
Yes, you were watching your love dying.
Yes, you were unlimitedly crying.
You’ll feel guilty that you’re still breathing.
But you can’t stop.
Yes, your heart is still bleeding.
Is it a tear or a raindrop?
The dream was here, waiting
to disappear in the depths or sing.
The past beats inside me like a second heart.
To welcome the next fresh start.
Was this love… Acceptance,
Understanding, Appreciation?
Did this love understand the reason,
causing the huge mutation?!

След залеза на всяка обич,
настъпва болка и тъга.
След залеза на всяка вечер
остава мрак и тишина.
Когато някои си отива,
ти нямаш сили да го спреш.
Когато видиш че една любов умира,
ти не можеш с нея да умреш.
Разбираш че мечтите са измама,
че си обичала, а обич няма,
че споменът е болка отлетяла,
че си била щастлива, а не си разбрала. 
― Blaga Dimitrova

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The Paradoxical Commandments

The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
― Kent M. Keith

Don’t Go in if You Don’t Have a Skin

He swallowed his proudness: “How do you feel?”
I answered: “I feel like I want to touch you, turn down the lights and crawl into that bed with you and spend the night making love with you. All night.”
He asked: “All night?”
I nodded.
“Deal”, he said.

 

In the past I used to tell myself: “You meant the world to me. Every day I wanted to show you, and every day I wanted to prove to you just how much you meant to me….People aren’t always what you want them to be. A lifetime isn’t forever, so take the first chance, don’t wait for the second one! Sometimes someone can disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a chance first. If you have a fall, only then you will teach yourself how to get up.  Because sometimes, there aren’t second chances! And if it turns out to be a mistake? So what! This is my life! A whole bunch of mistakes. You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope.  It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.”

Or: “Hearts will break and people will hurt you, darling. Don’t allow somebody to control your life or allow to have a grater hold on your happiness.”

But now I think positively: Every minute that goes by will not return. Every day I’ll show you, and every day I’ll prove to you just how much you mean to me. How much you still mean to me. Some things just couldn’t be protected from storms. Some things simply needed to be broken off…Once you accept the fact that every day is a new day to begin again, life becomes a much easier path to walk. If you never get a second chance: Don’t be afraid! And what if you do get a second chance? You take it! Getting a second life is one thing. Making it a better life, that’s the trick.  I believe, that second chances are stronger than secrets. You can let secrets go. But a second chance? You don’t let that pass you by.

Keep Your Diamond and Celebrate the Life

middle-aged-manA couple of days ago a middle –aged man with the initials “MQ” found me on Facebook and started chatting. Some of the words I am still thinking about.

I start with the sentence the man told me: “I can easy fall in love, if I know you well”.

We turn our back on our inner wisdom and listen to what people tell us rather than using our sixth sense.  

Men don’t understand women, but at least they know it. Women don’t understand men, but they don’t know it. Does the following question sound at all familiar? 

Did you know you can read minds? 

Simulation theory states that we are natural mind readers. We place ourselves in another person’s “mental shoes”, and use our own mind as a model for theirs. 

We all have intuitive power. All of us have had feelings about people that have been correct, yet we can’t explain why we felt the way we did. 

We often know when a partner is lying to us, even if every logical sign is to the contrary. The problem arises when we choose to ignore these feelings. 

Sometimes I say “I knew something wasn’t right from the start”, a year or two after I did find what was wrong…. But I hoped for the best… If only I’d listened to my inner wisdom. 

The next sentence the man “MQ”, middle-aged man, told me was: “…with a big heart, because my Love is as big as Universe (it has a sense of humour) this means lots to me”. 

According my experience, I tried to find the opposite contest of this sentence: My concern is the whole middle range of men who don’t know what is normal and who, when their sexual habits or performance changes, become so embarrassed or ashamed that they pull away from any intimacy: 

The longer this problem remains unspoken between a couple, 
the more monstrous it grows, until there is an eight-hundred-pound 
gorilla in the bedroom. Nobody mentions it for six 
months, two years, five years; meanwhile, the pair stops 
hugging, stops holding hands, stops touching altogether, 
moves to separate beds, to separate rooms, and ultimately 
separate lives. They become estranged in all forms of intimacy 
because of this sexual shutdown. 

But is it as simple as that? The younger generation seems to have become more metro-sexual. They cook, clean and take care of their children. They use grooming products and wax their bits and are far more “feminised” than the 40-plus-something men I am meeting. 

I think the time has come for men to readjust their sights. Our culture’s masculine code dictates that “men don’t need relationships, men don’t need to be connected, men don’t need to be heartfelt”. It is not true.  

There is a thing called knowledge of the world, which people do not have until they are middle-aged. It is something which cannot be taught to younger people, because it is not logical and does not obey laws that are constant. It has no rules. 

Now I would tell you what I think about myself: It was easy, terribly easy, to become with time a middle-aged woman with a sharp tongue. I would have to guard against this. 

To lovers out there…  

It won’t matter on the age… but once you find your diamond …..Will you stop your search, keep your diamond and celebrate the life? 

Memories

Five Years Ago

“What I like about photographs is that they capture a moment that’s gone forever, impossible to reproduce.”

 

Tell Him

I can tell you some of the things I didn’t learn during my school years:

  • Learning about Logical Consequence is a good place to start.

  • Learning to Speak and Listen. The younger generation has been called the Silent generation….

  • Along with Manners should be extended Kindness and Respect for all people encountered in normal society.

  • It is better to know how to Defend oneself and never need to, than need to and not know how to.

  • They didn’t mention anything about Dating and Romantic relationships. “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly”, said G. K. Chesterton. With some things we will be awkward and fumble when we are learning about how to do them.

  • They didn’t teach me how to be Rich or how to be Poor.

  • They didn’t teach me how to know what’s going on in someone else’s mind.

  • They din’t teach me how to tell you, My Darling, I love you so much

  • They didn’t teach me anything worth knowing.