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What Is Love?

Love needs chance and time to grow. Two things as well: bodies and words. Like a rose, but no spur. 

Me: “I never set limits when I love someone. When I touched you, it made me trembling. You did not notice how gentle my soul is; it does not mean I blame you for that – ‘turned out addicted to another human being’.

Him: “I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything. I have to allow myself to be loved by you, Darling. Too much of the time I was blinded, hunting people to love me, people that don’t even matter, while all that time I waste, and the people who do love me have to stand on the sidewalk and watch me! It’s time to put an end to this.”

Even do not mention you love me, when someone else is catering for your needs.

Maybe you will ask me about if love and pain survive together? My answer is definitely “No”. And now you ask me “Why”? Because I cannot truly love anyone, feeling the pain so deep in my heart. Imagine the pain I feel like chains around my body. I cannot feel free to love anyone, can I?

According the way I accept and understand love, the only thing that can glue my mind to his, it is not loving his perfections; it is the attraction between me and someone’s  sarcastic and erosive nature.

Loving someone is a full time commitment. And we have to use this time wisely. The most important thing to know about real love is that love is an action from you and to you. Every single day, whether in a relationship or not, you must affirm that love is what you do, not what you say, and you must insist upon it with everyone in your life.

Before I commit to loving someone, I make effort to understand his heart, make effort to understand his soul, to see even his darkest corners. Healthy relationships are about forthright and honest communication.

To love someone, really love someone who really loves you, too, is about being a good, sane, supportive and caring partner; knowing how to understand and compromise; knowing to accept my partner for who he is. Without trying to change me or even him.

If you are in a relationship and trying to salvage or save it, you—both of you—must figure out and heal that which has been hurting you and your relationship.

If one partner changes, the other is forced to change or leave.

Learn to begin sentences with “I feel” or “I think” or “In my opinion”.  Do not defend yourself against that which you are not doing.

Stop thinking you have no control over what happens to you. Take charge of yourself and what happens to you day in and day out.

In the end I can try to answer the question “What Is Love?”: Real love and really loving relationships are consistent. They are not always easy, but they tend to run smoothly because everyone works at it. Love is what helps you deal with the curves that life throws at you—not what makes things more difficult. Love, real love, is support in a difficult world, not something that makes your life even harder.

I do not want to be with a person, who turns everything into an argument or a challenge. It is exhausting. It does not have to be this way. I refuse to live this way.

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