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The Highly Sensitive Person in Love

To the Sober



Why do people often not take high sensitivity seriously?

Surprisingly, 15-20% of the population carries the trait that classifies them as highly sensitive, which means they respond to external stimuli more noticeably than non-HSP’s. In highly sensitive people (HSP), the part of their brain that regulates emotions performs differently than their less sensitive counterparts.

One reason is that it is a mostly invisible trait until you are around an highly sensitive person (HSP) long enough to notice certain needs and preferences, such as wanting more downtime or disliking loud noises. High sensitivity is not like hair colour, height, or gender.

Yet I think this trait has as much impact as gender, in that it affects all aspects of life – how you perceive the world and think about it, the kind of work that suits you, how you get along with others and how they get along with you.

We all live in the same communities, but we have very different needs and we cannot easily recognise who is sensitive, who is not. Not being able to see it or even have a good term for it until now, the huge differences in how people behave are blamed on everything except the real cause.

This can be a real source of aggravation in relationships, because we tend to think that if someone is doing something that doesn’t suit us, they ought to be able to change that behaviour if they really love us.

I can give you an example as a real trait: often non-HSPs think everyone should enjoy noisy restaurants or “small talk” and someone who doesn’t is just being fussy, difficult, or demanding.

Being highly sensitive is incredible. It’s beautiful. It’s raw.  But it’s also misunderstood, and a power that isn’t always easy to harness. And, let’s not forget its ability to heal.


Being highly sensitive is a natural and healthy condition, and it has a number of unique gifts:

  • Intuition – trust yourself

Highly sensitive people tend to be accurately perceptive of what is happening beyond outer layers — below the surface of situations, in the creases of crossings limbs, the pauses at the tip of exhalations, in between the lines, and without narrated reasoning.

Keep harnessing this power: learn to trust your gut, your ears, your shoulders, and your heart. Pay attention to the subtle reactions of your body aka inner world, and tap into the ability to feel the Oneness of all things. You are a vessel for transmission, and of great insight. Feel when your body is pushed forward or  backward people, places and things. Become aware, observe and react accordingly. The more you do it, the more it will grow.

  • Feel

Highly sensitive people can often feel the remnants of an experience, conversation or presence when entering a group, conversation or room. Being able to sense stagnant or left – over energy pockets creates an opportunity to learn how to cleanse, release, increase or decrease vibrations. In other words, to become aware of subtle energetic, flowing Universe around us.

  • Stop holding back, be Super Sexy

Yes. It’s true. Highly sensitive people are super sexy. Why? Mostly because they see through their hearts, love through their hands, and create with a hopeful light.

Keep harnessing this power: give yourself permission to move, create and engage in life intuitively, and with your entire body, and all of your senses. Allow yourself to become enlivened and so very open.


I’m a highly sensitive person, and I’m learning to accept and fall deeply in love with all that means.


What you have to do when you love a Highly Sensitive Person?


Most of all, accept them as the highly sensitive, emotional, complex person that they are. They can’t help how they feel and how they respond to the world, so simply embrace their true nature and enjoy the light that shines from their beautiful souls.


Empaths, or highly sensitive people, read energies and body language extremely well. If you want to continue a happy relationship with an HSP, you need to come clean about your emotions, because they will pick up on them regardless. However, they don’t like it when people hide things from them, so just remain honest and open in the relationship. Empaths can sense things going on deep beneath the surface, but they don’t like to play games. They need transparency and trust in a relationship to make it work.


They have a deep sense of the emotional world. They can feel other people’s pain and will try to fix it. In return they find themselves with a broken heart. They wear their heart on their sleeve. They have a deep, complex personality and just long for someone to accept and love them regardless of the emotional roller-coaster they tend to put people on. Just love them as they come, and they will love you right back.


Empaths desperately need to decompress from the world around them, and may disappear for hours at a time in their room. Know that they simply need time to process their environment and recharge after going out in society, and that they don’t want to hurt you. They are not retreating or avoiding you, but rather, protecting their precious energy stores. They get their energy from spending time alone, so make sure to give this gift to your highly sensitive lover.



Because their minds run a mile a minute, they sometimes have a hard time falling asleep at night. Talk to them gently, caress their back and arms, cuddle with them, or even read to them to get their mind to calm down. Empaths tend to worry about things quite a bit, so creating a peaceful environment at night can do wonders for their insomnia.


Empaths also tend to love nature and spontaneity, so if you love an HSP, take them on an unexpected trip. Surprise them; this makes them feel alive, and takes them away from the mundane nature of daily life that stifles their spirit.


Empaths can sometimes get in the habit of staying home too often and becoming a total hermit, so try to get them out of the house to challenge them and get them involved in things they love. Your HSP lover might show resistance at first, but they’ll thank you in the long run.


Empaths also love it when their partners take on creative projects with them – it makes for a great bonding experience, and plus, you might discover some previously hidden talents of your own!


HSP’s also need tons of love, so don’t hold back. Physical touch helps to reduce anxiety and depression, and in empaths, they feel these emotions on a much deeper level. Your affection helps them to feel loved and wanted, and will easily win them over.


Even beyond that, HSP’s need stimulation of the soul; they cannot engage in shallow relationships and meaningless conversations. Bring up topics such as how we got here, aliens, space, physics, animals, nature, or anything remotely deep that involves emotions and thinking on a higher level. Otherwise, they might just pretend to act interested in order to not hurt your feelings.