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"GOD has not called me to be successful. He called me to be Faithful… Never forget or neglect anyone because nobody knows what's coming tomorrow. You will know their value when you can't meet them once again in the lifetime." Mother Teresa

Keep Your Diamond and Celebrate the Life

middle-aged-manA couple of days ago a middle –aged man with the initials “MQ” found me on Facebook and started chatting. Some of the words I am still thinking about.

I start with the sentence the man told me: “I can easy fall in love, if I know you well”.

We turn our back on our inner wisdom and listen to what people tell us rather than using our sixth sense.  

Men don’t understand women, but at least they know it. Women don’t understand men, but they don’t know it. Does the following question sound at all familiar? 

Did you know you can read minds? 

Simulation theory states that we are natural mind readers. We place ourselves in another person’s “mental shoes”, and use our own mind as a model for theirs. 

We all have intuitive power. All of us have had feelings about people that have been correct, yet we can’t explain why we felt the way we did. 

We often know when a partner is lying to us, even if every logical sign is to the contrary. The problem arises when we choose to ignore these feelings. 

Sometimes I say “I knew something wasn’t right from the start”, a year or two after I did find what was wrong…. But I hoped for the best… If only I’d listened to my inner wisdom. 

The next sentence the man “MQ”, middle-aged man, told me was: “…with a big heart, because my Love is as big as Universe (it has a sense of humour) this means lots to me”. 

According my experience, I tried to find the opposite contest of this sentence: My concern is the whole middle range of men who don’t know what is normal and who, when their sexual habits or performance changes, become so embarrassed or ashamed that they pull away from any intimacy: 

The longer this problem remains unspoken between a couple, 
the more monstrous it grows, until there is an eight-hundred-pound 
gorilla in the bedroom. Nobody mentions it for six 
months, two years, five years; meanwhile, the pair stops 
hugging, stops holding hands, stops touching altogether, 
moves to separate beds, to separate rooms, and ultimately 
separate lives. They become estranged in all forms of intimacy 
because of this sexual shutdown. 

But is it as simple as that? The younger generation seems to have become more metro-sexual. They cook, clean and take care of their children. They use grooming products and wax their bits and are far more “feminised” than the 40-plus-something men I am meeting. 

I think the time has come for men to readjust their sights. Our culture’s masculine code dictates that “men don’t need relationships, men don’t need to be connected, men don’t need to be heartfelt”. It is not true.  

There is a thing called knowledge of the world, which people do not have until they are middle-aged. It is something which cannot be taught to younger people, because it is not logical and does not obey laws that are constant. It has no rules. 

Now I would tell you what I think about myself: It was easy, terribly easy, to become with time a middle-aged woman with a sharp tongue. I would have to guard against this. 

To lovers out there…  

It won’t matter on the age… but once you find your diamond …..Will you stop your search, keep your diamond and celebrate the life? 

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