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"GOD has not called me to be successful. He called me to be Faithful… Never forget or neglect anyone because nobody knows what's coming tomorrow. You will know their value when you can't meet them once again in the lifetime." Mother Teresa "The more society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it…. If you loved someone, you loved him, and when you had nothing else to give, you still gave him love." George Orwell
Yes it does happen. He may have thought he loved his wife years ago or before things changed, or he may have always loathed her and married her because of religion, family pressure, her being pregnant or to get her money. But rarely due to lasting love.
The thing is that it makes for a very unhappy life for both of them. She is wasting her life being with someone who does not really appreciate her as a person. She would be better off with someone else or being alone till she finds someone suitable. He may be getting approval from the family or less guilt or hassle or money but he is also miserable in other ways. He probably gets to loathe being with her more and more as time goes on, even if she behaves quite reasonably and nicely.
How do I know all of this? I have spoken to lots of unhappily married women and men. Every possible reason or excuse that you can think of I have been told.
Life is too short to spend it with the wrong person, but many do, either because they do not have the guts to move on and find someone else or be alone, or they have found another they like but do not have the guts to make the break from the first partner to be with the one they like more.
I would always advise someone in this situation to leave, but they always have excuses, and really they just want to moan about how unhappy they are.
If you are unhappily married or unhappily single, or with someone you do not love or trust, you maybe need advice. Unfortunately, I am making lots of changes now and have been for a long time, so I cannot offer to help you.